UNKNOWN RASH !!

Im hoping someone can help me my daughter has had a bad rash on her stomach and back since may.

 The doctor keeps giving her antibiotics and nothing is helping , we went to the eczema clinic and they said it wasn't eczema im at a loss to do the poor  girl is scratching madly and we have tried all forms of fatty creams and steriod creams , her skin is not  dry just red and itchy has anyone else had this ?

So an update to this 

I got sick of using the fatty creams and steroid creams and did not want to go near any more antibiotics so i am now giving her some Probiotics especially formulated for eczema relief 

I am now also using Aveeno skin relief for her daily cream 

I have noticed such an improvement more so on the known eczema on her legs , i will add a photo of her stomach again later today 

Her skin feels so much softer and she is not scratching at it quite as much , We have only been using both the probiotics and cream for just over a week so am hoping to see a drastic improvement after a month

Under 7's in a car seat !!!!

So from the 1st of November this year all children under the age of 7 up to their 7th birthday will have to be use carseat while traveling in a car !!!v

http://www.stuff.co.nz/motoring/8921773/Under-7s-car-seat-law-to-change

"Younger children, especially smaller ones don't have the correct position in a car with just a normal seatbelt on."

Ok i get that there are a few small children in New Zealand and maybe they should have to use a car seat for a bit longer but is it really necessary to change the law to enforce all children !! why not change the law to children under a certain height and weight ?

This really makes me angry as my girls for example are big girls i don't even think they will fit in a carseat when they are 7 and if i was to put them in the car without a carseat i could get fined $1000 !!

Im all for parent safety ( in fact you can ask my mum she thinks I'm OTT cautious ) but i believe we as parents should be able to decide when we think our child is old enough to sit in the car with just a seatbelt

I feel like parenting is becoming more and more controlled by the government .

People say that we live in a much more dangerous world but i wonder if in fact we live in the same world we just get told more and more things are bad and that we shouldn't do certain things shouldn't eat certain things , children are not even allowed to climb trees anymore !! we are wrapping our children in cotton wool , how do we expect them to survive in the real world ?

Women are their own worst enemy

Ever since becoming a mother i have come to the realization that women are their own worst enemy!

For example looking at the contraversial topic of formula feeding vs breast feeding

I have two beautiful girls , they are similar in most ways except by the way they were fed for their first 6 months .
When i was pregnant with my first child i had done my research on everything to do with pregnancy and newborns , i went to every antenatal class and by the time i was 9 months i could have run my own antenatal class . Throughout my whole pregnancy every professional , friend or just someone who wanted to have an opinion about my life had informed me that i had to breastfeed and if i didn't i would be failing as a parent ( please note everyone that told me this was a women ) . So that was fine i was determined i was going to breastfeed after all they said it's simple , there is nothing to it , it's natural , the baby knows what to do . Well you can imagine my surprise when my darling daughter was born and didn't know how to feed from me , day 5 came around and my baby was very jaundice and wasn't passing urine so off to the doctor we went AGAIN !!! we got told to go to a lactation clinic so off we went , they were so lovely at the clinic it was all set up so nicely and i was shown how to feed , my girl had a good feed and finally she was asleep , however back at home it was a different story , she just wasn't getting enough milk we tried everything , expressing into a wee cup , expressing into every shape  bottle and teat possible we did everything we could but she was still hungary and wasn't getting what she needed from me ( not to mention my breasts were raw and bleeding at every feed or pump (( they didn't tell me about the pain of breastfeeding at my antenatal classes)) ) so after yet another call to the health line and plunket we were advised to put her on formula and do mixed feeding that did the trick she had some formula and finally the crying stopped and sleep began by 3 month she was fully on formula.
Now having a baby on formula when everyone seems to be pushing breastfeeding was hard ,  whenever i was in public and had to feed my daughter i would get dirty looks from women when i pulled out the bottle even family and friends would give me dirty looks or explain to me that i was a bad mother as i had failed my child by turing to formula , it was horrid ,as a new and young mum i felt i had failed as a parent even though my daughter was thriving . I hated going to the doctors and i was drilled by the nurses as to why i wasn't breastfeeding .
I eventually got talking to other mums who had trouble breastfeeding and were giving their babies formula and were also feeling like they had failed as parents . This got me rather mad and it was at that point that i realized that people will always have an opinion and want to give me advice on what to do , but i was my daughters mum and i was doing everything to be a good mum and i wasn't going to let anyone feel like i wasn't a good parent again .

When i found out i was pregnant with my second daughter i of course was asked if i was going to breastfeed or formula feed and i happily said I'm going to try breastfeeding again but if it doent work I WILL FORMULA FEED and that was that . My daughter was born and i tried breastfeeding and it took off my daughter knew what to do and i am still breastfeeding her now at 7 months .
So im breastfeeding surly now no one will judge right ? ... Wrong now when i go out in public and i have to feed i get dirty looks from other women , others will ask why i am STILL breastfeeding ??!! at this point i realized it's us women that make other women , other mums feel awful about their parenting , i mean you don't hear a man complaining that a child has been fed formula or that a women is breastfeeding her child in a public place so why do us women do it to one another when we know about how hard parenting is ? why do we feel we need to have an opinion about another mums parenting ? shouldn't we be each others advocates supporting one another no mater how different our parenting styles are ?

My girls both fed different but both thriving and healthy :)

Your tired ? All you do is look after the kids ....

What annoys me being a mum ?
Well quite a lot really , most of all i think it's sleep , not the lack of it , (i knew about how much limited sleep i was due to incur  although i naively thought it would just be for the first 6 months of my children's lives ! ) but the fact that my partner seems to think his sleep is far more superior to me and that there is no way i could be as tired as him because my job isn't hard like his !! i thought i must be the only women in the world ho had a partner with this attitude until i got chatting to other mums who's significant others felt the same way an it got me thinking how many other women out there have to deal with this same conversation every day , Me : "im soo tired i have only had a few hours sleep and i have been flat out all day " , Partner: "your tired ? im so tired i need sleep more than you i have a proper job to go to , just sleep all you have to do it look after the kids ! " ,Me: " oh yes i forgot keeping two children alive is so much easier than sitting at the mall waiting for the cinema to close so you can lock up , thats ok you go back to bed and get your 8 hours sleep in piece " , it makes my blood boil !! so what can be done, my sister posted this to my facebook wall the other day and i think its brilliant

A man came home from work and found his 3 children outside, still in their pyjamas, playing in the mud, with empty food boxes and wrappers strewn around garden, The door of his wife’s car was open, as was the front door to the house and no sign of the dog, walking in the door, he found …an even bigger mess. A lamp had been knocked over, the throw rug was against one wall, In the front room the TV was on loudly with the cartoon channel, the family room was strewn with toys and various items of clothing. In the kitchen, dishes filled the sink, breakfast food was spilled on the counter, the fridge door was open wide, dog food was spilled on the floor, a broken glass lay under the table, and a small pile of sand was spread by the back door. He quickly headed up the stairs, stepping over toys and more piles of clothes, looking for his wife. He was worried she might be ill, or that something serious had happened. He was met with a small trickle of water as it made its way out the bathroom door. As he peered inside he found wet towels, scummy soap and more toys strewn over the floor. Miles of toilet paper lay in a heap and toothpaste had been smeared over the mirror and walls. As he rushed to the bedroom, he found his wife still curled up in the bed in her pyjamas, reading a novel… She looked up at him, smiled and asked how his day went. He looked at her bewildered and asked, ‘What happened here today?’ She again smiled and answered, ‘You know every day when you come home from work and you ask me what in the world do I do all day?…

”Yes,” was his incredulous reply..

She answered, ‘Well, today I didn’t do it.’
I cant find the exact source my sister posted it to my Facebook page but whoever made it deserves a medal ( thanks for sharing most womens pain !! haha ) after seeing this i was
contemplating doing it myself but then i think it will just mean that after i have proved my point i will have a huge mess to clean up :( what does keep me sane however is being able to get with other mums and talk about our infuriating significant others and receive sympathy from them . So for all you other mums out there that this is happening too , you are not alone and too any significant others out there reading this please note , your partner/wife/husband needs sympathy we are not asking for much just a bot of sympathy , a hug to assure us we are doing a good job , a back rub , or even just for you to look after the kids long enough for us to have  a shower by ourselves :)